In need of a little help

[colinmackay]

Hi people, just joined this site as I am having feelings that a married man shouldn't have.

Why not? It sounds like you might be suppressing something here. You think you shouldn't have the thoughts that you do and are trying to push them down and hide them.

I dont really fancy men at all or not looking at one particular guy, but having thoughts about making love to another man, either gay or a TV. Can anyone help?:confused:

I can say that I did once feel like that. When I was coming to terms with my sexuality I would often try to convince myself that I didn't really fancy men at all. I just wanted to know what it was like to have sex with one.

Finally "making love" conveys a much deeper emotional attachment that "having sex" which is why I'm suggesting that you look deeper into yourself to see what's really there.

In the meantime, if you want to experiment to see what you like then there is always Gaydar. If you want to try a gay bar (your profile says Reading, England) then can I suggest being careful of your belongings in The Malthouse on Greyfriars Road (I've been there a couple of times, and on both occasions different friends got their jacket stolen)