10-26-2010, 01:05 PM
Why would a grown man of 49 suddenly wonder what it's like to make love to another man or to a transvestite, you may ask yourselves. Well, mainly it must be that finally something has happened, it may be the Internet... it may be a dissatisfaction in his couple life... it may be that at last he's acknowledging his gay or bisexual nature?
I'd be enclined to think that you've been suppressing this feeling for a long time. While I knew from quite early on that I was gay, as a person, and interested romantically and physically more in men, I didn't let myself have any of those feelings for anyone that would definitely not be a potential partner.
I'm wondering Matey, if you have anyone around you that you can talk to about this? Would your wife understand, or is your sex life something that you don't discuss, for fear of hurting either of you?
Marshlander has said it, sometimes it takes a long long time to unlearn social patterns ingrained in us for a good many years and in our childhood. Are you particularly religious? Would you consider trying to experiment a bit with another man? Sometimes, trying it out makes you affirm better what you want out of life. I know I didn't have any special crushes on any men until I met my partner, and so I could easily have said that I felt no emotional attachment to them. I still knew, deep down, that I wanted that sort of relationship for myself, one day. So don't panic, try to sort out your feelings about it?
Have you watched gay porn? (not necessarily the best indicator of what sex can be like with another man, since it's all "put on" to arouse... but it might be an indicator, if you find it arousing).
Lastly, as Aaycles said, play safe and be discreet, if you don't want to put your present partner at risk.
Good luck on your journey to self discovery.
I'd be enclined to think that you've been suppressing this feeling for a long time. While I knew from quite early on that I was gay, as a person, and interested romantically and physically more in men, I didn't let myself have any of those feelings for anyone that would definitely not be a potential partner.
I'm wondering Matey, if you have anyone around you that you can talk to about this? Would your wife understand, or is your sex life something that you don't discuss, for fear of hurting either of you?
Marshlander has said it, sometimes it takes a long long time to unlearn social patterns ingrained in us for a good many years and in our childhood. Are you particularly religious? Would you consider trying to experiment a bit with another man? Sometimes, trying it out makes you affirm better what you want out of life. I know I didn't have any special crushes on any men until I met my partner, and so I could easily have said that I felt no emotional attachment to them. I still knew, deep down, that I wanted that sort of relationship for myself, one day. So don't panic, try to sort out your feelings about it?
Have you watched gay porn? (not necessarily the best indicator of what sex can be like with another man, since it's all "put on" to arouse... but it might be an indicator, if you find it arousing).
Lastly, as Aaycles said, play safe and be discreet, if you don't want to put your present partner at risk.
Good luck on your journey to self discovery.
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