Does anyone else feel this?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Most likely you 'require' a partnership with your sex partner that fills other deeper needs that goes beyond the short moment of lust and pleasure.

Sex is a complex thing that has a lot of various emotional attachments to it. Aside from lust and pleasure, we also use sex as a way to form intimate bonds with potential mates.

I have only had 8 sex partners in my whole life. 6 of them were honest attempts at long term relationships.

I figured out pretty early on that 'just sex' is not something I need. I think you are figuring that out for yourself.

Love can not be forced, love happens and setting a narrow band of 'types' to explore potential love with is a dead end street. If you are uncomfortable with random acts of casual sex, then you need to tell potential sex partners 'No, I'm more interested in a relationship'.

Eventually you will come across others who like you want more than 'just sex'.

It is not a problem, sure some queens will be mean to you, attempt to ply you with alcohol or seduce you... you must decide for yourself YOUR limits and draw those lines and stick with them.

If casual sex is no fun to you, then forcing yourself to 'fit in' and be just one of the boys is not going to be a good experience nor leave you with happy memories.

Be yourself is something that we gays seem to have major problems with and we delude ourselves into thinking that fitting in as 'gay' is being ourselves when often we are much more than who we have sex with.