11-08-2010, 05:45 PM
People never know us until they know us. A secret is always a burden. I kept my sexuality secret for many years, even from myself. I believe the mental ill-health I experienced was connected with trying to carry that weight.
Balancing this against other things in your life though is tricky. Although your wife sounds like one in ten million I am sure there are many things about your situation that need to be dealt with very carefully. I fully believe that being out is far better for me than being in the closet ever was. I literally experienced a lifting of the weight I carried and I even began to walk more upright!
I always thought what I eventually came to know about myself would be a burden if I shared it with my parents. Although my mother was in a coma when my father and I were talking about such really deep stuff as we sat in vigil at her bedside during her last few days he has proven his love for me in so many ways. We get on far better now he knows who and what I am than we ever did before I came out.
Balancing this against other things in your life though is tricky. Although your wife sounds like one in ten million I am sure there are many things about your situation that need to be dealt with very carefully. I fully believe that being out is far better for me than being in the closet ever was. I literally experienced a lifting of the weight I carried and I even began to walk more upright!
I always thought what I eventually came to know about myself would be a burden if I shared it with my parents. Although my mother was in a coma when my father and I were talking about such really deep stuff as we sat in vigil at her bedside during her last few days he has proven his love for me in so many ways. We get on far better now he knows who and what I am than we ever did before I came out.
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