The world moves to fast

[Sil]

Hi Rob,

hope things are picking up a little for you, I know what it's like being down and out from when I was graduating a few years back, probably one of the worst times of my life and it sounds similar. I wouldn't try and worry about labels too much, having to define yourself a certain way; I always think a person is defined by their actions rather than their interests.

I wish I had more experience in this field to help you with but I'll offer what I can. Back when I was single I briefly dated a guy who was slim, feminine, and quite depressed as it later turned out; he was interested in cross-dressing and had been considering having a full sex change and had a number of outfits he would try and wear when he was out, mostly subtle things to gradually ease himself into it in public. We lost touch after a while but he was always doing things progressively and working with a speech therapist to help with aspects of his body he wanted to change. I suppose what I'm saying is it may take time for you to feel comfortable with it from my memories of his experiences.

I remember wanting to be straight played that game for far too long...

And here comes the trite stuff- excercise is great for depression I've found. I'm not an advocate of "throwing yourself out there" because it can be quite a draining and scary experience that you put yourself through. I think a like-minded mate would be a great asset, and I hope there's people here who can give you more informed advice than me. x