I'm ready to cry!!!

[fenris]

Now, that I have introduced myself, and got a little advice on coming out, I need some support.

My partner an I have been together for almost 2 years. He is in the Air Force, and may have to go to out of state for an 18 month assignment. We recently decided that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. I support everything he does, but I am scared. Most of all, I am scared that he could one day be deployed to Afghanistan. I can't handle the thought of being away from him, and possibly never seeing him again if he is deployed. Whenever we are separated for each other for even a day, I feel like I can't breath without him. I love him so much it hurts at times. I finally have everything I have ever wanted, and I feel like it could all be taken away from me.

Every time this subject comes up, I get extremely emotional. His mother and I are going to meet this week for lunch. This will be the first time we will me alone, and I am really nervous for some reason. I don't know why because we have a great relationship now. Should I tell her how I feel about him possibly going away? Should I even be talking about our relationship to her?

About this Afghanistan-thing I don´t want to say more then it is forbidden to me to support any kind of war, violent and so on... and so my piece of advice would be not helpful.
But about the meeting with his mother I would wait in wich direction the conversation goes.... did she know you both are a couple... want she want to talk about .. and so on...

If she talk about him .. and you, then I would talk about your fears ... and about your relationship... so she can see your feelings for her son.... If she don´t want to talk about him ..be a nice guy... talk about anything and nothing...

If I remind on my first mother-in-law I would advice you to buy a big bag of dragon-food and don´t forget your heat shield.... :biggrin: