Painful anal sex

[princealbertofb]

Hi guys! Ok, so i am with my bf for 1 month now and we havent had anal sex. Hes top and I haven't tried it before. I've been fingered and i've attempted using dildos. But its so painful. The pain is not a stretching kinda pain, but more of like a very sensitve feeling. The kinda feeling (brace yourself for the gross part), you get when you ate extremely spicy food or when you are having a bad tummy ache. I dont know if there are other guys who feel like this. But more lube doesnt quite help in this case. Also, for me i am fine not having sex but for him penetration is important.

I have a couple of questions that im hoping you guys could help me with:

Is there a chance that i am not meant to enjoy being penetrated?

Can your partner with a big penis damage you anal tissues or generally harm you?

Also, how does it feel like when being penetrated? Is it a good feeling? Isnt it better to fuck than to get fucked cos even though the prostate gland can be better stimulated from the rear, wouldnt the front be the one that makes you attain the ultimate orgasm?

Having gut trouble, rumbling guts etc, might be a normal reaction. I think there is a name for it like Gay bowel syndrome... which is probably a reaction to the amount of abnormal movement going on down there and not just down but up as well. Our muscles are supposed to push the faeces down, little by little, and it might be that they don't like being interfered with like that. People react differently. There is also the fact that a lot of air could be pushed back up into the rectum and bowels, thus making you feel a bit bloated? There is one more thing that might aggravate you and that might be being allergic to condom latex. This is something that happens and you should check whether the burning sensation isn't coming from that. Latex is unfortunately one of the allergisers, like peanuts and bananas, so it you are sensitive to that, it won't help. There are other kinds of condoms available that are made of some kind of plastic which are ok to use if allergic to latex. Check them out online or at your drugstore / pharmacy.