12-08-2010, 08:43 AM
TimeBandit Wrote:I'm with marshlander, this relationship sounds like too much work.
From what you've shared, your boyfriend sounds a bit of a jerk, to be honest. Sometimes it's hard to see what someone is really like when you really want it to work out. I think it's perfectly reasonable to want to be with someone who actually wants to spend time with you. It just sounds like your boyfriend wants to keep you at arm's length. If I am with someone I really dig, I love to hear from them. What you have shared makes me think that this guy is "just not that into you." Of course, I could be wrong, maybe he just has problems with emotional intimacy; but then you'd have to wonder if you are willing to be with someone who will probably always frustrate you because he can't give you the affection and love that you want (and deserve, I think).
If I were you, as hard as it probably is, I wouldn't contact him again. You've done enough to show you care and want to spend time with him, now it's his turn to reciprocate. Honestly I hope you take a break and then find somebody else who actually is chuffed to see you.
Thank you so much for your help and for others as well. You all are right. He is really a jerk. Like one time, I asked him when is his concert (he performs with his friends on stage sometimes). He told me when and he said me this: "The ticket is $20. Can you afford?"
I was like wow. I can afford yeah, but to ask that to someone your supposedly a partner, not a stranger, that was really rude. Like man, I am your boyfriend right?
He's 31 and I'm 23. Age is just a number. I admit that I did some childish things but of course I'm still learning. But sometimes I feel like he's more childish than me. Whatever.
I am moving on. I stopped contacting him again. But I need closure which I will get soon hehe