Ex got a hold of me

[invis85]

Hello,

Your story really, REALLY freaks me out. My bf is in the closet still. And he also wants to raise a child (he's talking about adoption) in the future. He is having a very difficult time coming out. We have been together for more than 2 years. I invested a lot of feelings and emotions with him.

More than half a year ago, he met a female friend whom he feels really click with him. I have gone through so much emotional roller coaster with this new "friendship" because she once confessed her feelings to my bf. My bf didn't do anything because he doesn't want to lose a friend...or so he says...

I'm really scared that what happened to you will happen to me. I don't doubt my bf's feelings for me. But I doubt his actions.

But my advice for you is what I would say to myself if I were rational, level-headed, and know how to move forward without him if it happens to me: MOVE FORWARD, DO NOT LOOK BACK! He has stated what he wanted...FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. Nothing can hurt more. He is looking an easy way out so he could feel better, feel less guilty...DON'T LET HIM DO THAT TO YOU! YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!

Now the only thing I ask of you to do for me is to say this exact thing to me if I am unfortunate enough to run into the same situation.

I would like your advice too, I posted something about outting my bf, or soon to be ex-bf in same forum. Please humour me and offer me your advice, since it sounds like we're in the same boat.

I feel for you. Yet I also know that you will heal and that it will get better! Please do.

Tony