New to this and I need help!

[Shadow]

You're absolutely right, it is a difficult situation in which to find yourself, and one that I can relate to from past experience.

If you're right and he's gay, then it does look like he's interested in you, yep - however if he's not gay, which is obviously a possibility that you should prepare yourself for, then you do run the risk of losing everything if you play your hand too forcefully, or just plain wrong.

If you make a move and he's not interested, then it's possible that he'll be really quite put out, and that would leave you with a problem.

I advocate patience. Bide your time - watch for signs - bear in mind he does have a g/f, so he must know that if he IS gay, he's going to have to be pretty clear about it for you to make a move ... additionally, unless I've missed something, he doesn't have a clue that you're gay ... so there is considerable scope for you both to manoeuvre.

Watch the drinking - as you've already observed many a time, it makes you less discrete, and therefore more prone to making costly slip-ups.

Be patient, and watch him - whilst his gestures thusfar have been warm and friendly, they have not been sexual in nature - just the type of thing a very close and comfortable friend would do.

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