03-14-2007, 04:35 PM
Hello Anjel
I feel what you saying mate, it can be lonely and feels like that especially when you first come out and live as a gay man . But dont let this get to you it really gets better with time and experience . Till that comes fasten your seat belt and enjoy the learning experience - it is what you make it to be and can be fun and exciting (i dont mean the sex!)
i.e. now you learn about long distance relationships, you see how this works for you.
Soon you will see if you havent already that is not all about looks ,its about credit cards... lol Just kidding i mean personality :biggrin:
Precisely! The 65% of gay men is depressed because they read these stuff!
Don't listen to what magazines say, will emphasize on the negative rather the positive realities.
You are right in what you saying but ....it's not necessarily the gay culture. The way i see it is that muscles and fitness represent strength, masculinity (as big boobs represent femininity for women), good health ect which is considered by most people, gay or straight to be attractive. Normally physical appearance is what people who dont know you will first form an opinion on.
The scene can be very shallow and so the rest of the world! Said that, everything is what you make it. There are all kind of people and mentalities, the ones who just go there to chill have a laugh and those that want to get to get to know you. The stunning ones that are up their own arse and those that actually are cool rare kind but they do exist, the not so good looking ones that want to be loved too, the older who want their youth back. The good the pervs so on......How you filter these is another matter but you will learn quick because you are quite perceptive and keep learning.
Don't feel sad/depressed ect. Keep happy - remember happiness attracts happiness so smile and mean it!!!!
I feel what you saying mate, it can be lonely and feels like that especially when you first come out and live as a gay man . But dont let this get to you it really gets better with time and experience . Till that comes fasten your seat belt and enjoy the learning experience - it is what you make it to be and can be fun and exciting (i dont mean the sex!)
i.e. now you learn about long distance relationships, you see how this works for you.
Soon you will see if you havent already that is not all about looks ,its about credit cards... lol Just kidding i mean personality :biggrin:
Precisely! The 65% of gay men is depressed because they read these stuff!
Don't listen to what magazines say, will emphasize on the negative rather the positive realities.
You are right in what you saying but ....it's not necessarily the gay culture. The way i see it is that muscles and fitness represent strength, masculinity (as big boobs represent femininity for women), good health ect which is considered by most people, gay or straight to be attractive. Normally physical appearance is what people who dont know you will first form an opinion on.
The scene can be very shallow and so the rest of the world! Said that, everything is what you make it. There are all kind of people and mentalities, the ones who just go there to chill have a laugh and those that want to get to get to know you. The stunning ones that are up their own arse and those that actually are cool rare kind but they do exist, the not so good looking ones that want to be loved too, the older who want their youth back. The good the pervs so on......How you filter these is another matter but you will learn quick because you are quite perceptive and keep learning.
Don't feel sad/depressed ect. Keep happy - remember happiness attracts happiness so smile and mean it!!!!
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