10-23-2007, 08:52 PM
I agree that life can be lonely, and gay life can be lonely (sometimes very lonely), depending on where you are, who you're with, what kind of support network you have in place (by which I mean whether you're out to your friends and/or family, whether they're all 100% supportive of you, etc., etc.).
If you're closeted then yes, there are times when it can feel extremely oppressive just trying to get by, as people will oftentimes cut you dead in your tracks with a careless word or a thoughtless gesture ... and that does little to bolster your confidence - confidence you need if you're wanting to come out ...
... but life, to me, is a coin - it has two sides - ups and downs, rough and smooth ... and although this is going to sound really kinda screwed up (please do hear me out), whilst I would never advocate any of you having to go through the bad times, I believe an appreciation of the bad times can help you to better appreciate the good times ... the really REALLY important things in life - the things money can't buy, and which mean more to you than anything in the world ...
... a kiss, a cuddle, a hug, a meaningful stare deep into your eyes, somebody looking at you and telling you they love you, or care about you, these things mean so much more to us than most, because we have (in many cases) been unable to have them as we have so desperately wanted them, for the longest of times.
So whilst I do totally agree with you, in that there are a number of downsides to being gay (like the difficulties in getting married, having kids, settling down, avoiding the stigma, bla bla bla), there are also a lot of plusses as well ... for example, as I have already said, you have got, from having HAD to endure so many negatives in your lives, a finer appreciation of the good times than you might have had, had you taken them for granted.
... but I will, of course, understand if that comes as small consolation.
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
If you're closeted then yes, there are times when it can feel extremely oppressive just trying to get by, as people will oftentimes cut you dead in your tracks with a careless word or a thoughtless gesture ... and that does little to bolster your confidence - confidence you need if you're wanting to come out ...
... but life, to me, is a coin - it has two sides - ups and downs, rough and smooth ... and although this is going to sound really kinda screwed up (please do hear me out), whilst I would never advocate any of you having to go through the bad times, I believe an appreciation of the bad times can help you to better appreciate the good times ... the really REALLY important things in life - the things money can't buy, and which mean more to you than anything in the world ...
... a kiss, a cuddle, a hug, a meaningful stare deep into your eyes, somebody looking at you and telling you they love you, or care about you, these things mean so much more to us than most, because we have (in many cases) been unable to have them as we have so desperately wanted them, for the longest of times.
So whilst I do totally agree with you, in that there are a number of downsides to being gay (like the difficulties in getting married, having kids, settling down, avoiding the stigma, bla bla bla), there are also a lot of plusses as well ... for example, as I have already said, you have got, from having HAD to endure so many negatives in your lives, a finer appreciation of the good times than you might have had, had you taken them for granted.
... but I will, of course, understand if that comes as small consolation.
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
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