Individuality or Group Identity?

[fenris]

I always say that if 3 guys wear the same caps it does not mean that they must be friends....

For me my own individuality is very important.... I do what I want to do, not what a group means that I have to do ( thats why I´m freeflying pagan and not connected to a coven like wicca ). And thats the same with being gay, being a man, being a human, being a european, being a world citizen mile:
As many of you know germany is a Country of associations/clubs ..we call it "Vereine"... groups of people bowl, collect stamps, wearing beards, collect cars, doing sports, are shoting clubs, gardening in Schrebergaerten and so on.... I have tried to play tennis, to swim, to bowl ... but it don´t work with me... all this group-things prevent me to being myself... maybe I´m much to selfish... but I can only do what I think it is right for me....

Only to be gay is not enough for me to support gay groups... but if they work in a way I can identify with... Ok ... but that don´t mean that I have urgent to become a member of this group.... I can be a member of female rights groups, too if I think that the work they do is Ok for me.