I'm not sure what to call this, but here it is.

[jbrowder24]

I think people are a lot more prejudiced than they let on at times, even if they rarely act on it, and sometimes these people are the most defensive if you call them on it. Even if you use polite terms in correcting someone, they don't want to admit to themselves that they could be seen as a racist. And he's probably afraid you'll love him less if he admits his prejudices. At the same time, you have every right to be upset. It'd be good to examine your values and make sure they are in line. If they are and you wish to stay together, remind him why you love him. He may have done wrong, but he may also need reassurance that you'll accept him even if he does slip with the tongue. And perhaps try to broaden his circle of friends to get to know more diverse people down the road