10-20-2007, 11:34 PM
Dude, I've looked at your pictures and you're FAR from ugly, so that's a major plus point - I was expecting the Loch Ness Monster or something, but there's nothing wrong with you at all 
It's perfectly natural to be shy - I'm the same - I'm NEVER the best in social settings - here I'm fine as I can say what I want, when I want, how I want, but put me in a pub and I'm the one that orders drinks for other people, and winds up speaking to the bar staff arguing the difference between salted and dry roasted peanuts and their respective salt contents - in short, not very good.
HOWEVER, having said that I've had three boyfriends (shortest lasted 3 months, longest I'm still with and that's coming up for 2 years now - woohoo !!), and I'm living proof that it actually is possible to meet the right kinda guy for you AS a boyfriend THROUGH GAYDAR - yes people, it can happen !!
You've already done a great thing by joining up to the boards (and progressing to become a moderator is no mean feat either, but you don't need me to tell you that) - you've doubtless made quite a few mates on here that you're in regular contact with, and that's good not just because it helps to give you a broader world-view, but also because you have the resources of other people and their experience-base to draw upon.
The US is like most places - there's good and bad there, as there is here in the UK ... I think it might be a bit foolhardy (no offence) to adopt TOO heavy a grass-is-greener posture without fully exploring it, but yeah - why not save up some cash and take a trip over here to see what you think ... if you like it big stylee, then perhaps look to take an ... extended trip ... as in perhaps a rest-of-your-life-trip ... works for some
Best of luck to you mon ami.
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
It's perfectly natural to be shy - I'm the same - I'm NEVER the best in social settings - here I'm fine as I can say what I want, when I want, how I want, but put me in a pub and I'm the one that orders drinks for other people, and winds up speaking to the bar staff arguing the difference between salted and dry roasted peanuts and their respective salt contents - in short, not very good.
HOWEVER, having said that I've had three boyfriends (shortest lasted 3 months, longest I'm still with and that's coming up for 2 years now - woohoo !!), and I'm living proof that it actually is possible to meet the right kinda guy for you AS a boyfriend THROUGH GAYDAR - yes people, it can happen !!
You've already done a great thing by joining up to the boards (and progressing to become a moderator is no mean feat either, but you don't need me to tell you that) - you've doubtless made quite a few mates on here that you're in regular contact with, and that's good not just because it helps to give you a broader world-view, but also because you have the resources of other people and their experience-base to draw upon.
The US is like most places - there's good and bad there, as there is here in the UK ... I think it might be a bit foolhardy (no offence) to adopt TOO heavy a grass-is-greener posture without fully exploring it, but yeah - why not save up some cash and take a trip over here to see what you think ... if you like it big stylee, then perhaps look to take an ... extended trip ... as in perhaps a rest-of-your-life-trip ... works for some
Best of luck to you mon ami.
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
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