Sexual Displeasure

[LateBloomer]

"i cant seem to reach climax, and i cant let some one climax inside me""
for the RIGHT person you need to GIVE your body to them even if you have lots of sex drive or not. well because you will be sending a lot of time with them, you will be having common interests and share your bank account and credit card with them. be the best gay bottom you can be for them. cant do any of the above? you need to skip the relationship thing for now.

do the research for yourself but i am thinking:
for guys that resisted coming out to themselves for a long time they actually become a-sexual. low chance this theory has any immediate fitment for you? i came out late in life and at times have to work on it a bit myself. nothing is 100% and other days i'm on top. with daily stress for both me and my partner its a continual project.

no rush, be incredibly sure where you want to be and if you cant get there your self seek out some professional help. if you really want a relationship; what you ever accomplish by your self in life you can do just that little bit more with that special guy at your side.

Did someone say, "coming out late" and "asexual"?

Cue LateBloomer.



Speaking for myself, yes, there were many years where I felt asexual as a way to deal with the ambiguity of my sexuality. I couldn't resolve BOTH in my head so I shut it down to NEITHER.

At any rate, in response to the original question I would suggest working at it in increments. For example, I wonder if Kuja simply enjoys the intimacy of being physically close to someone (aka: body contact, or cuddling)? If he enjoys having someone close, kissing and touching, but doesn't enjoy penetration, then I would suggest drawing a line with his parter(s).

Personally I LOVE body contact, kissing and touching MORE than penetration, but I try to be a full service lover.

If all forms of physical intimacy are a turn off for Kuja, well, maybe the time just isn't right. And take it from someone who describes himself as a LateBloomer--for everything there is a season.

Just take your time.