12-13-2007, 09:44 PM
It depends on how one wants to sees it . You can think it is over or you can think how do i fix this.
To finish it is easy to work on it is the challenge. Personally i would have made everything to my power to fix whatever needs fixing. You will need to find the reasons why you want to save your relationship and what you should do to make it better. There is not a recipe to do that but the most important ingredient i believe is to be able to communicate what you need/want. Michael and his husband have found what it works for them and keep their relationship alive. Sit down and talk to your partner if you still are interested in saving and keeping what you have. If it doesnt work after doing so then you know you have to end it.
I dont think what you say here makes you a terrible person. If someone thinks it does then they had it easy in their life and relationship(s). To be honest cheating is not the end of a relationship...it can be if you want it to be but not necessarily. some chose to tell their partner some keep it a secret. Depends what seems to be the best for you both. Would he like to know? Or would YOU like to know if you were in his position?
I would like to know if a bf cheats on me but would prefer to know it before he does it, and know the reasons and if this means the beginning of the end otherwise i would feel sad and anxious. Looking for excitement with someone else should just ring the alarm that something doesnt work like it used to be but not the definite end. On the other hand maybe you have already moved on?
To finish it is easy to work on it is the challenge. Personally i would have made everything to my power to fix whatever needs fixing. You will need to find the reasons why you want to save your relationship and what you should do to make it better. There is not a recipe to do that but the most important ingredient i believe is to be able to communicate what you need/want. Michael and his husband have found what it works for them and keep their relationship alive. Sit down and talk to your partner if you still are interested in saving and keeping what you have. If it doesnt work after doing so then you know you have to end it.
I dont think what you say here makes you a terrible person. If someone thinks it does then they had it easy in their life and relationship(s). To be honest cheating is not the end of a relationship...it can be if you want it to be but not necessarily. some chose to tell their partner some keep it a secret. Depends what seems to be the best for you both. Would he like to know? Or would YOU like to know if you were in his position?
I would like to know if a bf cheats on me but would prefer to know it before he does it, and know the reasons and if this means the beginning of the end otherwise i would feel sad and anxious. Looking for excitement with someone else should just ring the alarm that something doesnt work like it used to be but not the definite end. On the other hand maybe you have already moved on?
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