Coming out to my dad...

[aggie2015]

Man I wish I could help but I'm in a similar boat. I just started the coming out process and haven't started with my family yet. My Dad isn't really homophobic but I think that he will definitely have the hardest time with it.

Sorry, didn't mean to make this about me. Lol

Maybe you could give us a little more background on the situation and your dad? I'd like to think that he'll love you no matter what and will support you. In speaking to a lot of my gay friends about the coming out process, a lot of them have told me that they thought their Dad would take it hard and while some did, most of them were way more supportive than they thought and the ones that weren't, did come around with one exception.

Well when I came out all my friends were supportive, I was surprised by that. When I told my mom she denied it at first, and she still tells me she thinks I'm joking and/or lying. She is still trying to process it. My older brother also told me that I would be hurting my family by "choosing" to be gay, but I have been trying to convince him that I didn't choose to be gay. My dad has always made homophobic comments, ever since I can remember. When I was little he would always take certain things from me, such as teddy bears, because he thought they would make me gay. He has always criticized me for everything, well not just me, he has always critcized all my siblings. He is a very cold person and I've never felt comfortable talking to him so coming out to him seems very difficult, since we don't have a relationship at all. I'm almost a hundred percent positive he will disown me, because he has done it to my older sister. Not because she was gay but because he doesn't like her boyfriend. I would like to hope he wouldn't take it in a bad way but unfortunatley I know he will. At this point I'm just hoping for the best.