Coming out to my dad...

[theclosetgay]

Well when I came out all my friends were supportive, I was surprised by that. When I told my mom she denied it at first, and she still tells me she thinks I'm joking and/or lying. She is still trying to process it. My older brother also told me that I would be hurting my family by "choosing" to be gay, but I have been trying to convince him that I didn't choose to be gay. My dad has always made homophobic comments, ever since I can remember. When I was little he would always take certain things from me, such as teddy bears, because he thought they would make me gay. He has always criticized me for everything, well not just me, he has always critcized all my siblings. He is a very cold person and I've never felt comfortable talking to him so coming out to him seems very difficult, since we don't have a relationship at all. I'm almost a hundred percent positive he will disown me, because he has done it to my older sister. Not because she was gay but because he doesn't like her boyfriend. I would like to hope he wouldn't take it in a bad way but unfortunatley I know he will. At this point I'm just hoping for the best.

Hmm... well, of course it's your decision but it sounds to me like you don't have that great a relationship with him so what difference does it make? Whether you tell him or someone else does, it doesn't really sound like it matters.

This may be a bad question to ask but why is it so important for you to tell your Dad if you 'don't have a relationship with him at all'?