Why be unkind?

[nullnaught]

There are a few things that confuse me here :

A. Why it was o.k to use the word queer as a chant for gay rights. ( Oh yes they did , I was there with my friends in 1984 marching along with them, they were proud.)

B. With T.V. shows named "Queer eye for the straight guy" or" Queer as folk" what do you expect ?

Just a tad bit of a double standard ; wouldn't you say?

I never go out of my way to insult someone,but at the same time I do not expect anyone to dance to my tune.

I dont think it is O.K. to use as a chant. I am not asking for anyone to dance to my tune, I am asking them to use polite language around me, so that I can participate.
You all act as if I am alone in this. Just because I am the only one speaking up doesn't mean I am the only one thus affilicted. I am just the only one here asking for accomodation.
If you don't wan't my contributions, say so. Otherwise create an evironment that is welcoming of everyone including myself. Do you really need to self-loathingly slur yourselves like that? Is your self-hatred really so important to you?