Why be unkind?

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But what I really want is equal access, not a bunch of weak excuses why others have a right to be hurtful and exclusive. Because that is what is happening. People like me are excluded by this insensitivity towards us.

You have equal access, there is nothing that has been done to exclude you, and there are no weak excuses. The fact is you are in a community where this word has been used for good and bad for over 400 years, so it was around a long time before any of us were born.

Mate, I'm not trying to make trouble, simply telling it like it is.

I don't like the word, I don't identify with the word, I very rarely use the word, but to INCLUDE myself in a community it is one of those things that each and every single person has to learn to deal with.

So I ask you WHO IS EXCLUDING YOU? We have welcomed you, we have embraced you, we have listened to you, we have responded to you, but you ask each and everyone one of us to 'change our ways'? Is that fair?

I personally feel that no one here has excluded you. You have excluded yourself over a word that is very rarely used in GaySpeak. I haven't seen the word used in general discussions here until you used it so in effect you have created a discussion that has excluded yourself where there are thousands of other discussion you could be involved in and be INCLUDED.

So I ask you have we not done our utmost to INCLUDE you and is it not yourself that is EXCLUDING you?