Why be unkind?

[OrphanPip]

I dont think it is O.K. to use as a chant. I am not asking for anyone to dance to my tune, I am asking them to use polite language around me, so that I can participate.
You all act as if I am alone in this. Just because I am the only one speaking up doesn't mean I am the only one thus affilicted. I am just the only one here asking for accomodation.
If you don't wan't my contributions, say so. Otherwise create an evironment that is welcoming of everyone including myself. Do you really need to self-loathingly slur yourselves like that? Is your self-hatred really so important to you?

There is nothing self-loathing about the word. Why are you so willing to let negative associations dominate the meaning of a symbol. Gay can be used negatively just as easily as queer, because it is now synonymous for stupid/uncool/effeminate amongst much of my age group, should I now abandon the word?

Queer's original meaning is not as a slur for gay people, it means strange or different. It is not even the same as the N word, because we are merely redeploying the original meaning of the word and reclaiming difference from the norm as something that can be celebrated rather than attacked.

Why do you think you have the right to dictate how people self-identify, to accuse them of self-loathing because they choose a word you dislike. What about people who have negative experiences related to the word gay, I know I have never been called queer as a slur, but I have personally encountered gay being used as a slur in and of itself.