Up and Down

[Bookworm]

Well from past experiences it has seemed that some of the guys that I would date like 50% would freak out if I just wanted solo time, yet maybe things have changed with guys and perhaps they are not like that way, or perhaps I just dated the wrong guys :biggrin:

I enjoy my solo time too whenever i'm in a relationship. We are all unique and react differently to the whole relationship dynamic, but, I have noticed over the years that I have found myself side-lined by close friends who sometimes focus all their energy into a relationship, and forget the people that have been there for them throughout their life, through the good times and the bad times. Then, when the relationship goes south, I suddenly have to be there for them again as if this was my only role in life. I'm not complaining though really, that's what best friends are for I guess :biggrin:

This is why solo time is important to me, Its not just for me, it affords me some space to include and catch up with people who are also important to me in my life. It can be a challenging balance to get right. Its even better if you can combine both ( I noticed in what I'd written that it sounded like I always keep my relationship world separate from my friends/acquaintances world) :redface: