What doyou think?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Ok, how often did you guys alternate. Because its been like with with him from day one. I thought it was just an opening up thing, perhaps it still is. I just think <1/week for 10 mos means something has to be at issues, whether its him or I, I'm unsure. I just don't know if I'm up for it and want as many other perspectives as I can get.

Alternate? If you mean who initiates, that would be 'me'. My partner feels more comfortable being 'passive' in every way..... We did come up with the candle lighting ceremony, where I would be able to get a clue... if I come in the house and smell cinnamon candles burning, then I know that he is wanting to play.

He would never, ever initiate. He is uncomfortable with being the one to broach the subject... One of many subjects that we have been in and out of couple's counseling on.

Passive/aggressive may also be something at work here.... I do not know who does what in your relationship.