Might be gay and I'm really scared

[Inchante]

Well, none of us can tell you if you are gay or not. Human sexuality is not that complicated of a matter, though, when it really comes down to it. It doesn't work in binaries (homosexual/heterosexual). It works in a continuum, where one person may be almost entirely attracted to the opposite sex, another almost entirely attracted to the same sex, and many who fall some place in between.

I would ask you how frequently you are attracted to members of the same sex (people you come in contact with and people you might see in the media), how frequently do you find yourself fantasizing about other men, and then compare that information with how frequently you feel and do those things with women in mind.

Really, the thing that makes sexuality complicated is society, how it structures, defines, and demeans certain things which occur in nature. If you are primarily attracted to men (gay), I would give a second thought to allowing yourself to be who you are. You do not have to limit yourself. There are plenty of gay people that have great lives, great loves, and great accomplishments. Being gay does not have to subsume the rest of your identity nor do you have to deny that part of your identity to be happy. Indeed, most of us have found the opposite to be true.

Really, you should just concern yourself with finding out who you are and being the best version of that that you can--live life according to your own good and allow others to do the same.