Might be gay and I'm really scared

[Tommy81]

i dont think its a fear of been gay - i believe its the reaction of others that we fear of us been gay...

This is what my partner feared when we first met. Amazing guy. Beautiful. Identified as bisexual. Totally in the closet with everyone but his closest friend. He was terrified of what his family and mates would think if he came out as bi, let alone gay, and let alone introducing me as his boyfriend.

I can't pretend it wasn't difficult. But we worked on it. It took 2 months before he even came-out to me as having "known I was gay all my life". Other introductions, and the integration of our lives, slowly followed.

The most impressive point is that in the end, NOBODY CARED! His brother, whom he was most concerned about telling, said that he was glad my fella had found someone to love, and didn't care that I am a bloke. Everyone elses reaction was the same. No friends lost. No parental dismay. No dramas at all.

My fella now tells me that without me remaining steadfastly by his side, and supporting him and not putting any pressure on him, he would still be in the closet and living a lie. I suggest you might want to go out there and find a bloke and see if you have the same epiphany. Results aren't guaranteed, of course, but you're obviously a bit miserable about the situation, so go for it! Make the change. You may never look back. Happiness is worth it.