12-03-2011, 06:08 AM
Bowyn Aerrow thanks for your reply. I am the problem and you're correct. It is ok for him to play mind games with me and do all sorts of things but I am the problem and you're correct.
I also never thought about that when having a relationship with someone that sex shouldn't be part of it. I'm not saying I want to have sex every single day but as you have stated from the sounds of it that when you initially meet someone that you do have wild sex and then it eventually leads to minimal or none whatsoever.
I have the wrong interpretation when it comes to having a relationship and the best thing for me to do is not to enter into one. I need to focus on myself and stop thinking about this guy and move on.
The best thing for me to do is just to watch porn and get my pleasure of of that. At least that way I'm getting pleasure but I don't have to worry about having sex and wondering about someone else.
The thing that you don't understand is that he has had a girlfriend and he cheats on them with other girls -- but that's ok for him to do that, but when it comes to his girlfriend doing stuff with someone else it's totally unacceptable. That's the norm and not saying you're agreeing with this but that's the general consensus of people these days.
Also when he has been with me he has flirted with other guys, and even made me feel uncomfortable in the sense that he has put them before me -- but that's ok for him to do so. He will make random comments about sexual stuff with others and what he basically wants to do is be able to say them -- but when people such as myself question him on something that he has said he will just say oh he was joking and all.
He will say one thing and then when it comes to his actions and a situation happens he will do the complete opposite of what he says. Such as he will say I would never do this or that but then when the opportunity presents itself then he does. So Bowyn Aerrow you're correct I'm the problem and as you stated the problem is with YOU (meaning me). It's ok for someone to do whatever they want to you but when you react a certain way then it's not right and the problem is YOU (meaning myself) and he is a perfect angel.
You have helped me out and now I know that a relationship is not right for me. And incidentally I have told him all about me and always been honest with him but when it comes to him he has always been all over the map -- never consistent. He's right to be that way. People such as me who are honest are the odd ones and are wrong -- again the problem is YOU (meaning me) and I live in an entirely different world which is wrong and his way is right. Thank you Bowyn Aerrow for helping me to know that I have everything all wrong and incorrect. Oh and he said to me when I asked him while he has been with me if he has ever thought of doing stuff with another guy and he said technically yeah. I asked him who it was and he wouldn't tell me who it was. But, when he asked me who I have been involved with and any personal things I have always told him about it. But, again he is right to not tell me and be candid. So if he has cheated with multiple girls while having a girlfriend and admitted this I guess I am wrong to be suspect about it.
And when I said that he is bisexual and wants that means he wants to meet another guy -- I meant to say that him being bisexual and saying that he would bring another guy back to his place means that he would do more than oral sex and that if he is bisexual obviously he is sexually attracted toward guys.
The think that I feel is that if I only can give him head -- and when it comes to the chance that he would do something with another guy if he did meet them and do more with them doesn't make me feel really good. But again you're correct Bowyn Aerrow I am the problem and I need to not be in any relationship period.
I also never thought about that when having a relationship with someone that sex shouldn't be part of it. I'm not saying I want to have sex every single day but as you have stated from the sounds of it that when you initially meet someone that you do have wild sex and then it eventually leads to minimal or none whatsoever.
I have the wrong interpretation when it comes to having a relationship and the best thing for me to do is not to enter into one. I need to focus on myself and stop thinking about this guy and move on.
The best thing for me to do is just to watch porn and get my pleasure of of that. At least that way I'm getting pleasure but I don't have to worry about having sex and wondering about someone else.
The thing that you don't understand is that he has had a girlfriend and he cheats on them with other girls -- but that's ok for him to do that, but when it comes to his girlfriend doing stuff with someone else it's totally unacceptable. That's the norm and not saying you're agreeing with this but that's the general consensus of people these days.
Also when he has been with me he has flirted with other guys, and even made me feel uncomfortable in the sense that he has put them before me -- but that's ok for him to do so. He will make random comments about sexual stuff with others and what he basically wants to do is be able to say them -- but when people such as myself question him on something that he has said he will just say oh he was joking and all.
He will say one thing and then when it comes to his actions and a situation happens he will do the complete opposite of what he says. Such as he will say I would never do this or that but then when the opportunity presents itself then he does. So Bowyn Aerrow you're correct I'm the problem and as you stated the problem is with YOU (meaning me). It's ok for someone to do whatever they want to you but when you react a certain way then it's not right and the problem is YOU (meaning myself) and he is a perfect angel.
You have helped me out and now I know that a relationship is not right for me. And incidentally I have told him all about me and always been honest with him but when it comes to him he has always been all over the map -- never consistent. He's right to be that way. People such as me who are honest are the odd ones and are wrong -- again the problem is YOU (meaning me) and I live in an entirely different world which is wrong and his way is right. Thank you Bowyn Aerrow for helping me to know that I have everything all wrong and incorrect. Oh and he said to me when I asked him while he has been with me if he has ever thought of doing stuff with another guy and he said technically yeah. I asked him who it was and he wouldn't tell me who it was. But, when he asked me who I have been involved with and any personal things I have always told him about it. But, again he is right to not tell me and be candid. So if he has cheated with multiple girls while having a girlfriend and admitted this I guess I am wrong to be suspect about it.
And when I said that he is bisexual and wants that means he wants to meet another guy -- I meant to say that him being bisexual and saying that he would bring another guy back to his place means that he would do more than oral sex and that if he is bisexual obviously he is sexually attracted toward guys.
The think that I feel is that if I only can give him head -- and when it comes to the chance that he would do something with another guy if he did meet them and do more with them doesn't make me feel really good. But again you're correct Bowyn Aerrow I am the problem and I need to not be in any relationship period.
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