12-09-2011, 06:34 PM
Bowyn Arrow, what you said makes a lot of sense. In middle school/junior high I was ostracized and called gay all the time (they meant gay more as a negative, as you also mention, not referring to my sexuality, as they didn't know me at all). Thank God I came out of my shell in High School, incidentally that was another time when I went through a big change, going from a shy introvert to a fun-loving extrovert.
And who knows what was going on in my subconscious.
At 14 I also met a man who was gay and 20 years older. He never hit on me and was very respectful. I was shocked to find out he was gay, as he looked just like a normal man, you couldn't tell he was gay from looking at him. He was a good role model to have as he shattered all the pre-conceived notions and stereotypes I had about gay men (that they were all ultra-feminine and flamboyant). He's still a dear friend and we keep in touch.
Thank you so much Bowyn for taking the time to write such a long and interesting post for me.mile:
And who knows what was going on in my subconscious.
At 14 I also met a man who was gay and 20 years older. He never hit on me and was very respectful. I was shocked to find out he was gay, as he looked just like a normal man, you couldn't tell he was gay from looking at him. He was a good role model to have as he shattered all the pre-conceived notions and stereotypes I had about gay men (that they were all ultra-feminine and flamboyant). He's still a dear friend and we keep in touch.
Thank you so much Bowyn for taking the time to write such a long and interesting post for me.mile: