12-16-2011, 01:58 PM
I would say that someone who is "out" is someone who is comfortable with his/her sexuality and doesn't take action to hide it. For instance, before being "out" I took active measures to hide that I am gay. Now, while I don't announce it to the world, I don't take any measures to hide it.
In general, I am "straight-acting" so no one would know unless they ask. Sometimes people ask, I respond that it isn't their business (or if I'm feeling facetious I'll ask a similarly personal question-"What's your favorite sexual position?"). I don't think it matters, or should matter, who I like to sleep with. It's completely irrelevant and I think people should not be so comfortable asking with a personal question like "are you gay?"
In general, I am "straight-acting" so no one would know unless they ask. Sometimes people ask, I respond that it isn't their business (or if I'm feeling facetious I'll ask a similarly personal question-"What's your favorite sexual position?"). I don't think it matters, or should matter, who I like to sleep with. It's completely irrelevant and I think people should not be so comfortable asking with a personal question like "are you gay?"