How Surprised were your Parents?

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I'm not close to either mom or dad and haven't told either one.

But I'm close to Granny and I've told her. Let's see, I started off telling her that at 17 I truly became sexual (though I'd fooled around for years before that) and I fooled around with guys and girls. This didn't seem to surprise her at all or bother her. But then I told her (because I thought it was funny) how a guy told me I'd "outgrow" my bisexuality and said he was right, I'm only into women now. THAT disturbed her, and she was quiet for awhile and looked distressed.

Then she started asking if the messed up life with my 'rents was keeping me from wanting to have a family, if I was with women because I was scared of guys or angry at them, and worst of all, if she'd done something or failed to have done something that made me gay. She talked like she was scared I could never have a happy life and that I'd die alone (I wonder if she'd have had that reaction if I said I decided to be celibate?), and some time later she also mentioned how bad she'd messed up raising my mom (and she really did, though I don't hold it against her) and hoped she'd had done better with me (and I got the implication that she felt she'd messed up with me and the only reason I can think she'd think that is because I'm a lesbian). I think I'd have preferred a knee jerk Christian reaction of how it's a sin to her acting like she must've failed me somehow.

But she adjusted and I think she's ok with it now.