12-31-2011, 08:02 PM
I saw a therapist *briefly*. I was just out of college, about 23 or 24 years of age. I was a virgin, shy, introverted, confused about my sexuality, etc...
He wanted me to date men and women and that scared the shit out of me, so I stopped going.
You know, now I'm older, and let me tell you...people call therapists "head-shrinkers" or "rent-a-friends"...and you know what? In a way they're right.
Well, they don't shrink heads, but I've noticed that when I have a problem that I discuss with my very best friends, it FEELS a little bit like therapy. They KNOW me, they understand the problem and they help me find a solution.
But here's the catch, if you can't talk to even your BEST friends about your "problems" or "issues" then you should probably see a professional.
I've done A LOT of fine tuning over the past 20 years all by MYSELF. Could a professional have done that for me, a lot quicker? Honestly, I don't know. Because we as humans DON'T CHANGE until we're ready for a change, and it's usually some sort of crisis (near death or mid-life, etc) that precipitates this change.
Whatever you choose, just try to live in the most honest and genuine manner you can. Both for your sake and the sake of those who are important to you.
Best wishes.
He wanted me to date men and women and that scared the shit out of me, so I stopped going.
You know, now I'm older, and let me tell you...people call therapists "head-shrinkers" or "rent-a-friends"...and you know what? In a way they're right.
Well, they don't shrink heads, but I've noticed that when I have a problem that I discuss with my very best friends, it FEELS a little bit like therapy. They KNOW me, they understand the problem and they help me find a solution.
But here's the catch, if you can't talk to even your BEST friends about your "problems" or "issues" then you should probably see a professional.
I've done A LOT of fine tuning over the past 20 years all by MYSELF. Could a professional have done that for me, a lot quicker? Honestly, I don't know. Because we as humans DON'T CHANGE until we're ready for a change, and it's usually some sort of crisis (near death or mid-life, etc) that precipitates this change.
Whatever you choose, just try to live in the most honest and genuine manner you can. Both for your sake and the sake of those who are important to you.
Best wishes.
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