01-13-2012, 03:43 PM
So around the age of 40 you started having these feelings and fantasies? Is there anything major in your life that might have happend? Death of a parent/loved-one? Loss of a job? Money? Has anything happend physically between you and your wife? Did you or she gain alot of weight? Lose alot of weight?
The fact taht this just emerged, makes me think something had to trigger it - unless of course you've left out something in your post?
I agree with the other posts here about getting to a therapist - but please, FIND ONE that has experience in dealing with gay/bi/lesbian/trans issues!
Until you come to understand what triggered this sudden issue in men (emotionally and sexually), i don't think you should worry aabout the "label" - gay or bi.
Get to a therapist!
PS: You don't have to tell your wife about therapy at first!
The fact taht this just emerged, makes me think something had to trigger it - unless of course you've left out something in your post?
I agree with the other posts here about getting to a therapist - but please, FIND ONE that has experience in dealing with gay/bi/lesbian/trans issues!
Until you come to understand what triggered this sudden issue in men (emotionally and sexually), i don't think you should worry aabout the "label" - gay or bi.
Get to a therapist!
PS: You don't have to tell your wife about therapy at first!
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