01-26-2012, 12:00 AM
Anonymous, I would suggest banning the cell phone (mobile phone) It's become way too easy for him to tell you at the last minute that he's not doing this, or not coming or whatever...
The second thing is to let him know how this makes you feel, ie uncomfortable and, to some extent, insecure. Maybe he hasn't taken in your need to know what's happening next and your sense that you're wasting your time just waiting around and wishing you were together. Maybe he needs some pointers in keeping his promises and keeping to a schedule.
If that's not something that he can or will work on, then maybe you should just be occasional friends.
S
omething tells me that he's either very sloppy and lazy, or he's too busy (and maybe has other things going on that take precedence) but either way, it's taking its toll on what relationship you both have.
All the while, I don't suppose you want to come across as a control freak, but at the moment his indecision is controlling you and making you into a wreck. That can't continue as it is a recipe for disaster.
Good luck with the talk. Have two or three concrete examples to give him, maybe write them down when they happen (times, dates, expectations, let down and how they make you feel, and what you think is going on). Let him dispell any misunderstandings if there are any,but you will need to give concrete evidence that this is happening. You seem to have a stash, but things when written down, do bear more weight.
The second thing is to let him know how this makes you feel, ie uncomfortable and, to some extent, insecure. Maybe he hasn't taken in your need to know what's happening next and your sense that you're wasting your time just waiting around and wishing you were together. Maybe he needs some pointers in keeping his promises and keeping to a schedule.
If that's not something that he can or will work on, then maybe you should just be occasional friends.
S
omething tells me that he's either very sloppy and lazy, or he's too busy (and maybe has other things going on that take precedence) but either way, it's taking its toll on what relationship you both have.
All the while, I don't suppose you want to come across as a control freak, but at the moment his indecision is controlling you and making you into a wreck. That can't continue as it is a recipe for disaster.
Good luck with the talk. Have two or three concrete examples to give him, maybe write them down when they happen (times, dates, expectations, let down and how they make you feel, and what you think is going on). Let him dispell any misunderstandings if there are any,but you will need to give concrete evidence that this is happening. You seem to have a stash, but things when written down, do bear more weight.
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