Interview a GS Member: CellarDweller

[CellarDweller]

What is your suggestion when it comes to finding dates and or friends?

Google can be a great asset. I didn't have a lot of gay friends in my immediate area, and one day I decided to Google "gay" something I liked, so I Googled "Gay Bowling League" and I found a GLBT league that bowls every Tuesday night about 10 minutes drive from my house. I've since made a lot of friends, and we have a dinner planned, as I've gone dancing with them a few times. It's been a great experience. Try it......"gay cooking", "gay hiking" anything that can be a group activity with "gay" on it.

What are your thoughts on open relationships? Is it just simply an accepted way of life when a relationship begins to fade?

I completely avoid open relationships and "threesomes". I think that it's a dead end, and after a while, one of the thirds is no longer wanted and the pair reforms, and the third wheel is out of luck.

What are your thoughts on group relationships, I've run into several couples and 1 group(family of gay guys 4 of them) who wanted to add another to their relationship. Do you think that works? Is that just substituting for something? Or general thoughts

I avoid these situations as well. It can be tempting, but you have to stay strong with what you want. I know I wand to be part of a commited couple, and that's what I focus on. As for what happens when a relationship "fades".......once you find yourself in a relationship, you have to work to maintain it. A relationship is like a garden, if you don't cultivate it, it will become over-run with weeds and refuse to flower.