Here goes...

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Hi and welcome.

Let cut the bull out here.

Regardless of your sexuality, you are married. Hooking up with other people (Male, Female, androgynous - whatever) is cheating.

You are a classic case of why neither the straights nor the gays like bisexuals. Bisexuals are cast in this role of never been satisfied with what they have, and being bi they are always looking for the opposite gender they are with. Yes its a stereotype, and yes you appear to be living up to that stereotype.

The problem with your marriage is not that you are bisexual, the problem is you are cheating. Cybersex is cheating in the books of many, hell many still consider looking at porn as 'cheating'.

Cheating leads to a lot of unhealthy behaviors, lying, sneaking about, and keeping secrets. Secrets make us sick and keeping secrets makes us sicker. The sickness here is the lying, the hiding, the denial that you are hurting others, etc. Its not your sexual orientation.

If you honestly want things to change then you need to seek out couples counseling.

I do not know if this happened or not, but I read recently that the NHS will offer free couples counseling. Here is a link: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/health...dance.html

I would assume that there is sliding scale somewhere in the UK. http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/

If that link isn't helpful then how about you use your internet time to find counselors (yes plural)?

Also get a one on one counselor (the couple's counselor will most likely want both of your to seek individual counseling as well). You need to figure out what it is you really want in life. Going online and meeting men (or women) on internet hook-up sites is not the way to figure out who and what you are sexually.