12-05-2007, 08:59 PM
Serfdom and Twazzle have given you some great advice there babe ... for me I think it sounds like a case of square peg, round hole insomuch as I agree with Serfdom that it will never work if you're trying to force him to be something he's just not.
LITTLE things, yes - they can change, and as you're both so happy with each other apart FROM the little things, then it sounds like it's perfectly possible that he can just adapt to your hating this or that, and find workarounds that re-establish the status quo, but what you do not want is for him to begin second-guessing himself on a regular basis, in case not doing so sparks an argument with you ... because then he'll be on tenderhooks all the time, and your relationship will start to lean on the backfoot a fair bit ...
Open dialogue - that's what I prescribe - next time he does something that really pisses you off, just tell him (in a non-combative way) and let him demonstrate his maturity by either calling you on it, or undertaking to change it ... and be as receptive to criticism from him as you would like him to be of yours ...
A level playing field will create a level relationship, but for what it's worth, it's Martyn's differences that make our relationship all the more exciting for me ... I love that he's a bit of a mess sometimes, and I love that he's always wet from the shower when he gets into bed ... tiny little things like that make me think "That's SO not how I would do it, but you rock" and then I give him a lil peck on the bonce, and snuggle up with him ...
But that's just what I think
mile:.
xx
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
LITTLE things, yes - they can change, and as you're both so happy with each other apart FROM the little things, then it sounds like it's perfectly possible that he can just adapt to your hating this or that, and find workarounds that re-establish the status quo, but what you do not want is for him to begin second-guessing himself on a regular basis, in case not doing so sparks an argument with you ... because then he'll be on tenderhooks all the time, and your relationship will start to lean on the backfoot a fair bit ...
Open dialogue - that's what I prescribe - next time he does something that really pisses you off, just tell him (in a non-combative way) and let him demonstrate his maturity by either calling you on it, or undertaking to change it ... and be as receptive to criticism from him as you would like him to be of yours ...
A level playing field will create a level relationship, but for what it's worth, it's Martyn's differences that make our relationship all the more exciting for me ... I love that he's a bit of a mess sometimes, and I love that he's always wet from the shower when he gets into bed ... tiny little things like that make me think "That's SO not how I would do it, but you rock" and then I give him a lil peck on the bonce, and snuggle up with him ...
But that's just what I think
mile:.xx
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
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