No mutual attraction

[Toby]

Erich Fromm wrote a book I really liked called "The Art of Loving." It's very insightful in terms of how we view the idea of relationships (romantic and otherwise). He feels that because we live in a consumerist culture, we view other people like products. ex: "How can I get the most bang for my buck," or "I want the most amount of satisfaction out of someone for the least amount of effort." I don't mean this necessarily applies to you specifically, but everyone. He mentions in the beginning that "Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved, rather than that of loving, of one's capacity to love. Hence the problem to them is how to be loved, how to be lovable." He goes on to say that, basically, a person's objective should be to love. Love actively (which I think would've been a much better movie title than "Love Actually"). Focus on finding the lovableness of others and love will come to you.

I don't know if any of that is actually helpful but... there ya go. Attraction is temporary. Life is short. Practice loving others. It's not as easy as the movies try to make us think it is, but it's a lot more beautiful.

P.S. I know I used the word love to an annoying amount. My apologies.