No mutual attraction

[Sylph]

Dfiant... Your "Libra-ness" is showing :p .

I can totally see where your coming from(especially being a fellow Libra ), age truely is a number and maybe what you say is very much a reality, but I have to politely disagree for only one reason.

Common Interest. Without this very seemingly infantismle factor contributing to a relationship, what do you have? True a relation consists of multiple things, and I'm sure your more experienced then I am, but without common interest how can you form a relation with someone, let alone hope for it to sail smoothly like a ship?

I have to be honest, older men frighten me in the regard that, although they may be harmless, they are older, more powerful(not always physically), already set in their ways, stable and everything that I, as a budding college student, am not.

I'd much rather "grow-up" with someone my age, experience new things with someone who is equally at my level, not meet someone who's already done these things and are usually only after one thing(not to sound like a woman >.>).

I love people in general, and wouldn't mind hanging out with people double my age, but when it comes to romantically, I can't feel comfortable. No offense to anybody, but I really believe in this.

Can you honestly say Dfiant, that if you were dating an 18 year old, you could find yourself genuinely interested in what he's interested in? I mean sure, depending on what it is, you probably could, but what if it's not reciprocated?

I feel the reason why the "young ones" view relationships this way, is because we don't want to lose out on our youth or any new experiences, because we've settled down with someone who's probably experienced those same experiences many times.

I tried dating a 28 year old, but he was only trying to be my "daddy" as he put it. Saying that he was my man and other condescending things. It turns out he had been stalking me since I was 13 and I never knew it. Maybe it's his fault I feel this way towards this topic, but that's just how I am now.

It's sad to think that anyone thinks someone else is"desperate", but some people really are. The things I've seen and heard would probably make you cringe, and they almost all had something to do with an older man and younger boys/men, so yes, I sometimes see them as desperate when the relentlessly target you, but it also can work reverse.

I just basically feel that, unless you can totally connect on a level beyond physical and reach that emotional/mental part and match it equally and genuinely, then it shouldn't be pressed any further. It would only lead to disaster. I can't say I've met a 30yr old with the same mentality as a 18yr old(I hope not, cause that can't be healthy), but it could possibly happen, but only if it's organic.

Nobody is pathetic or un-worthy because of their age, and can find love in anyone, but if it's not organic, then that means it's artifical and personally, I don't want an aftifical relationship/lover.

I hope I didn't offend you(or anyone else), but I kind of felt I had to reply and elaborate on my previous post abit.

Huggz though