02-14-2012, 10:10 AM
No I can't say I ever had that happen to me.
But then I didn't go looking for love in all the wrong places.
If you do not want to be a piece of meat, don't put yourself out on the butcher's table.
There are a few - a very few, real gay dating websites. If you go to one and you see a lot of 'ME: Built, bottom/top, ISO well hung.....' then you are on the wrong site.
Gridnr ain't the way to go.
In fact the reality may be that using the internet to network and meet new people thus potential prey, erm, I mean partner, ain't going to work. You need to put yourself out there in other areas.
Got a hobby? Then find a real life meeting group - not an internet group, a group that meets in the flesh in a real live meeting place. Don't go there looking to date, go there to explore your hobby or interest, and meet people, make friends - yes even with the straights - many straights just happen to know a gay person and are often more than willing to set you up on a "date".
Staying at home and surfing the internet is not doing it for you, so stop trying that method and use other methods and routes, like the good old fashion face to face networking we did for thousands of years before texting became so popular.
As for 'attractive' - are you sure there is an attractivness quota here or are you out there looking for your ideal man?
Let me put this another way, I am not with the man of my dreams. The men of my dreams tend to be walking nightmares :o. I'm not saying the man I'm with is unattractive, what I am saying is he doesn't measure up to that old ruler I carried with me when it came to the 'ideal partner'. If anything he is a near complete opposite in every aspect that I had previously set for 'Mr. Right' in body type, height, hair coloring etc.
If you are having problems with finding the same man (i.e. same kind of personality conflicts) in relationship after relationship, it is most likely you picking these winners out of the barrel.
A lot of the physical characteristics we set on 'our type' is more than just body looks - its how that body is carried, mannerisms and other barely perceived things that the personality beneath moves that body with.
So you might want to assess what it is about those guys you find so attractive - really think about it.
But then I didn't go looking for love in all the wrong places.
If you do not want to be a piece of meat, don't put yourself out on the butcher's table.
There are a few - a very few, real gay dating websites. If you go to one and you see a lot of 'ME: Built, bottom/top, ISO well hung.....' then you are on the wrong site.
Gridnr ain't the way to go.
In fact the reality may be that using the internet to network and meet new people thus potential prey, erm, I mean partner, ain't going to work. You need to put yourself out there in other areas.
Got a hobby? Then find a real life meeting group - not an internet group, a group that meets in the flesh in a real live meeting place. Don't go there looking to date, go there to explore your hobby or interest, and meet people, make friends - yes even with the straights - many straights just happen to know a gay person and are often more than willing to set you up on a "date".
Staying at home and surfing the internet is not doing it for you, so stop trying that method and use other methods and routes, like the good old fashion face to face networking we did for thousands of years before texting became so popular.
As for 'attractive' - are you sure there is an attractivness quota here or are you out there looking for your ideal man?
Let me put this another way, I am not with the man of my dreams. The men of my dreams tend to be walking nightmares :o. I'm not saying the man I'm with is unattractive, what I am saying is he doesn't measure up to that old ruler I carried with me when it came to the 'ideal partner'. If anything he is a near complete opposite in every aspect that I had previously set for 'Mr. Right' in body type, height, hair coloring etc.
If you are having problems with finding the same man (i.e. same kind of personality conflicts) in relationship after relationship, it is most likely you picking these winners out of the barrel.
A lot of the physical characteristics we set on 'our type' is more than just body looks - its how that body is carried, mannerisms and other barely perceived things that the personality beneath moves that body with.
So you might want to assess what it is about those guys you find so attractive - really think about it.
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