Complete Life Make Over

[mrk2010]

First of all let me congratulate you for your success in weight loss. Weight loss is not an easy task but you've made it. So congrats and give yourself a huge pat on the back.

Mrk2010, so some people say you are good looking? Please take their words and accept that you are good looking with pride. Other people usually can see things that ourselves can't see. Always do remember that we are usually the worst critics to ourselves.



I think a makeover like self grooming, changing hairstyle, wearing contact lens and changing your fashion style is fine. That's normal. But to be frank, even all these can't help you if you are lack with self esteem.

A true life make over actually comes from within you. What you are inside will shape who you are outside. What's the point of looking perfect from head to toe if you are cluttered inside?

My office is located right in the middle of gay spot. I see countless of gorgeous gay guys every single day. Perfect height, flawless skin, sharp fashion sense, slender waist etc. All of them are beautiful but y'know, the more I see them every day, the more bland and plain they become.

The main problem that I see with most of these guys is that they lack with identity and individuality because all of them 'look' the same. Everyone's chasing to look perfect and they do their best to hide the smallest imperfection that they have. That's a pity because your imperfection is essential to make you different and special from the rest.

Another thing. Most of these guys worry a lot with their appearances to look perfectly stunning everyday. You don't think there's nothing wrong with their self esteem over there? They are being driven and pressured by their surroundings and people around them.

If you think giving your appearance a makeover is what you need, go for it. Groom all you can with your appearance but don't forget to groom your self esteem and confidence too. Without self esteem and confidence, you are still the same guy before you've had your makeover.

Always remember that nobody is perfect. Perfectionism can paralyze your life and you for a long term. Realize your limits. Exploit your strengths and be proud with your strengths. Conquer your self esteem and you will defeat all you weaknesses.

If you need to talk in private, I'm all ears. mile:

I'm a perfectionist by nature in all aspects of my life, this doesn't bode well :p