02-28-2012, 10:55 AM
I think its good that you want to change and meet people etc.
I understand that changing your looks is one of the easiest ways to attain that. I know so, because I went through it myself. I had minor surgery on my eye lids to give it a double fold (I had sleepy looking Asian eyes, did LASIK and lost my glasses, had moles removed from my face, and had a super expensive hair artist do my hair. And by gosh it made one hell of a difference.
I don’t think it was necessary, but the self confidence that came with it, my new interest in fashion, and just the way people treated me different made me feel better about myself, and I became more out going and confident.
But at the same time, I do feel that your perfectionism is making you too fixated on the “looks” department of the life make over project.
As with any good and effective projects, you need multiple approaches so it creates synergy. And as many people have already suggested, you need to work on your self esteem, you may also want to try opening up and not being so shy.
Improving your looks 100% may not bring about as big a change as the result of a synergy from changing your looks 65%, improving your self esteem by 70%, over coming shyness by 70%.
Just a suggestion.
Anyhow, good luck!
I understand that changing your looks is one of the easiest ways to attain that. I know so, because I went through it myself. I had minor surgery on my eye lids to give it a double fold (I had sleepy looking Asian eyes, did LASIK and lost my glasses, had moles removed from my face, and had a super expensive hair artist do my hair. And by gosh it made one hell of a difference.
I don’t think it was necessary, but the self confidence that came with it, my new interest in fashion, and just the way people treated me different made me feel better about myself, and I became more out going and confident.
But at the same time, I do feel that your perfectionism is making you too fixated on the “looks” department of the life make over project.
As with any good and effective projects, you need multiple approaches so it creates synergy. And as many people have already suggested, you need to work on your self esteem, you may also want to try opening up and not being so shy.
Improving your looks 100% may not bring about as big a change as the result of a synergy from changing your looks 65%, improving your self esteem by 70%, over coming shyness by 70%.
Just a suggestion.
Anyhow, good luck!