Help please

[brybry87]

Anonymous,

Sometimes the relationship will start to eventually fade away. You'll find yourself sharing less and less with that friend and it is pretty sad but at the same it's for the best.

Again, good luck :]

[Anonymous]

Thanks bowen and brybry.

@bowen i hate to admin it but you are right, it is like a drug, i do see a therapist we have just not touched the subject because i feel ashamed of my feelings. he is helping me, for some reason and i think it has to do with your comments, all of you, today i feel like i need him less. I like this, but kind of makes me think and wonder, will tomorrow be hell again? I hope not, so far im using my time of thinking of him into other things i enjoy doing like working out and running and music.

Thanks you all.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Thanks bowen and brybry.

@bowen i hate to admin it but you are right, it is like a drug, i do see a therapist we have just not touched the subject because i feel ashamed of my feelings. he is helping me, for some reason and i think it has to do with your comments, all of you, today i feel like i need him less. I like this, but kind of makes me think and wonder, will tomorrow be hell again? I hope not, so far im using my time of thinking of him into other things i enjoy doing like working out and running and music.

Thanks you all.

There is nothing to be ashamed of here. Your feelings are valid.

[Anonymous]

Well i cant help but to feel I will be judged. I know he is not supposed to show any sign of being judgmental but you never know what he is truly thinking inside his head. After all they are humans too with likes and dislikes. But i have opened up in the past 2 sessions after a 5 year work to tell him what is really happening.

[arby]

I had the same problem you have. I had a crush on one of my friends, who was my best friend since I was a kid. He was also my very first gay crush.

I didn't know if he was straight or not, so after seeking advice from another close friend I asked him through text message. He was straight, and so of course it didn't go any further than that. At first it hurt a lot, but I began to realize that I still had plenty of time in my life to find a guy, and there are plenty of other guys out there. I just had to give it time. So my advice to you would be to just understand that this is just the beginning of your life, and that you have so much more time to find someone.

I should point out that these aren't distant memories for me; I'm a freshman in college, and this friend of mine was a high school crush. These events took place only two or so years ago.

[Anonymous]

Guys I want to thank each one of you for the comments, some i liked some i didnt like because no one likes to face the ugly of us. But it is thanks to all the comments that i can say i am much better and this is no longer a problem, this thread was a like a therapy and it made me aware of certain things. I do not feel the same way about him anymore and a lot has to do with changing the thoughts I have when i see him, being able to stop them and change them. I woke up one day not liking him anymore and stopping my thoughts (fantasies) was very easy. Thanks!!