Hiya everyone,
Im new on this site and want to introduce myself.
Quick explanation:-
Im in a relationship with a woman but regularly fantasise about men.
Although in daily life I dont find men attractive, i find gay porn and fantasising about gay sex a real turn on.
I have never had sex with a man before but I want to make the jump.
What are peoples thoughts on this. Am i bi / bi curious? not sure.
I do know that i would like to meet someone for no nonsense sex.
Phoenix out!!!
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"Bicurious" is basically a bullshit term for gay/bi men who aren't fully out of the closet yet. No happily and totally straight guy is anxious to have sex with men. It makes no sense that you "don't find men attractive" and yet want to have sex with a guy. It sounds as if you're only kidding yourself.
Look, we live in a world that is homophobic, not "heterophobic" which is the very reason why many men who are essentially homosexual have girlfriends -- and even wives -- to hide behind, while they go out and "cheat" and think, well that's what "bisexuals" do. (Being bisexual supposedly means that you can fall in love with either sex, not that you need to have sex with both men and women on a regular basis.) It takes guts and courage to be openly gay, but that's preferable to living a sad, closeted, double-life, cheating on your partner on a constant basis, being a square peg squeezed into a round hole.
Forget this "bicurious" business. You are attracted to men. You could be bisexual, you might be gay.That's nothing to worry about or be ashamed of. Be honest with your girlfriend about your feelings -- it will be her decision to go on with the relationship or not; she either can handle it or she can't -- and explore your gay side (safe sex only!). You may come to realize your chief attraction is to men.
Good luck!
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Hiya well i should have say that your bicurious u dont hav to be really bi tho coz i had a mate like that and it went away as soon as it come tho... and yep hes still str8 lol dont worry about it bicurious does mean ya bi ok
cya lov samule xox :tongue:
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Hi and welcome
I believe in that there sliding scale...
100% straight ---------------------------- 100% gay
Everyone falls somewhere on that line and those that are around the middle would fall in the bi or bi curious label... if we have to label of course.
I certainly agree that you shouldn't mess around... if you're not the monogamous type, then it should be made clear to your partner from the start that you want an "open relationship" and honesty should always reign throughout. As to whether open relationships work or not... well that's a question unto itself.
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I think it is easy to exam what your sex-oriantation really is.
That's whether you feel horny when you watch straight porn or gay porn.
If both,BI.
And BTW,it is said that if someone watch straight porn to much,and happen that the porn exaggerates the man-side too much,he will tend to be not as straight as he was before.
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Shadow, I think your definition of "bi-curious" is a good one.
I just don't think that totally straight guys are ever "bicurious."
I am a great believer that if people have gay/bi feelings they should explore them -- I mean, what's the alternative -- staying in the closet for years? If the original poster decides to take that first step and dates/sleeps with men, I don't even know if I'd call that "cheating" necessarily. His relationship with his girlfriend could be very casual and non-exclusive. If a man is attracted to men he owes it to himself to explore those feelings so -- especially if he's essentially homosexual -- he can become a happy gay man.
He shouldn't wait until he's in his forties and married with three children (which happens much more often than anyone realizes.) And even if he's genuinely bi, his girlfriend has the absolute right of being informed of that.
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