More troubles with my mother
09-07-2012, 06:39 PM
Oh geez, Blue, I'm so sorry. You told me part of this the other day, but this is the first I've seen of the letter. :-( My late grandmother used to tell me I should not hang around my lesbian friends, as they recruit innocent girls, you know.
My grandfather (same side) is pretty at that point with me since I left the church, and since I left the husband of 12+ years, and they don't even know I'm gay. I'm concerned that if I come out to my family, it will be much the same, and I fear they'd pressure my parents into doing the same thing. Right now, that's not something I can afford to lose, but you, my friend, are much stronger than I. Not to mention what might get said to my young, impressionable kids. Or my nieces, whom I love. I'm on thin ice with my sister and her husband. If they got wind I'm gay, I don't think I'd ever see those kids again.
And yet, the confessed brutal beater of the family, the one who is responsible for destroying our youngest sister, who used to beat the shit out of the family dog behind closed doors, who can't hold a job (even though he's able bodied), who openly and proudly works the family, system, and local churches, and is determined to have six kids total (third is about to be born)? He's been forgiven because he said "sorry" for brutally beating and exposing himself to the youngest sister. A sorry he doesn't mean. Oh yeah, and he's the one who has lied to many people, telling them I sexually abused him (did effing not!). Point being, no, there is not justice in some families. Mostly due to strict adherence to religion.
By the way, they had no right to tell you to change your name. They could try, but you know, there's no legal bearing on that. I know you did, but you know, it's better to embrace the original spelling than the corrupted version anyway!
This is why so many people turn away from religion, and the religious nuts wonder why. :
igh::
(Sorry. Not meaning to hijack. With possible funeral coming up for the other, nicer grandmother, this ugliness is coming up yet again.)
My grandfather (same side) is pretty at that point with me since I left the church, and since I left the husband of 12+ years, and they don't even know I'm gay. I'm concerned that if I come out to my family, it will be much the same, and I fear they'd pressure my parents into doing the same thing. Right now, that's not something I can afford to lose, but you, my friend, are much stronger than I. Not to mention what might get said to my young, impressionable kids. Or my nieces, whom I love. I'm on thin ice with my sister and her husband. If they got wind I'm gay, I don't think I'd ever see those kids again.
And yet, the confessed brutal beater of the family, the one who is responsible for destroying our youngest sister, who used to beat the shit out of the family dog behind closed doors, who can't hold a job (even though he's able bodied), who openly and proudly works the family, system, and local churches, and is determined to have six kids total (third is about to be born)? He's been forgiven because he said "sorry" for brutally beating and exposing himself to the youngest sister. A sorry he doesn't mean. Oh yeah, and he's the one who has lied to many people, telling them I sexually abused him (did effing not!). Point being, no, there is not justice in some families. Mostly due to strict adherence to religion.
By the way, they had no right to tell you to change your name. They could try, but you know, there's no legal bearing on that. I know you did, but you know, it's better to embrace the original spelling than the corrupted version anyway!
This is why so many people turn away from religion, and the religious nuts wonder why. :
igh::(Sorry. Not meaning to hijack. With possible funeral coming up for the other, nicer grandmother, this ugliness is coming up yet again.)
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