Chase Wrote:Hi, I'm new to this site. I can type really fast but I'm not use to forums. I hope I did this right. Sorry if I like, put something in the wrong place.
I'm 20, in college. I have a really hard major.
I don't know if I did this right, I tried to make it so my profile picture is a picture of me and my avatar is a picture of James Maslow. On the profile privacy thing I put visible only to registered members, that means only you guys can see my picture right? Like some crazy man won't be able to see my picture and track me down and kidnap me or some fanatic can't copy my picture and put it on some hate website?
The only person in real life who knows I'm gay is my mom. My dad isn't religious or anything but sadly he buys into all of that antigay propaganda crap. For awhile I was on Yahoo Answers, but, it wasn't the trolls that drove me over the edge, it was the legit, anti-gay, gay hating people, who everyday would post real legit gay hate million dollar interest group stuff.
I don't really care for people to know I'm gay and it's not so much that I have to have at least one person know, but I went through high school with friends who hated gays and would kill me if they knew I was gay, and whenever I'm talking to people there's always that probability maybe they approve of gays, maybe they don't; so it's like I just need to have this certainty thing where I know I've communicated with people who wouldn't care.
hello Chase, and
to GaySpeak.... Of course we care about our fellow gay mates... What else can we do, to promote acceptance? I hope, soon, you won't feel like you have to hide who you are out of a sense of not being safe. I myself am wary of who knows about me and who's allowed to know. I'm glad you've been able to confide in your mother. May I ask, how come she knows and your father still has no idea? Is she keeping your secret ''secret'' from him? I was wondering; are they still together? That's a big secret to keep from your husband, if you're still married. Just a thought.
Another thought, here. You know I really have trouble with these few associated words:
real legit gay hate ! For me no gay hate is
legitimate... none of it. Period! And it shouldn't be. So we need to fight for more understanding and more acceptance, but how can we get that if we are too afraid to accept who we are? (not throwing any stones here, I need to do my own sweeping here, I know... I just wish I were less cautious, sometimes). Anyway, maybe this is something we can solve with our allies... (our mums, our friends, our parents etc..., people who don't judge us by the colour of our skins, or our sexual orientation but by the content of our character).
Good luck, Chase.
mile: Nice to have you here.