Im Feeling...

[Deedee]

Ugly, unwanted, and I'm losing my Self-Confidence

any tips on how to gain back myself confidence?
:"<
Have a nice day.

[Rawr]

Take a look in the mirror and shout out "Damn, I'm beautiful" or something similar at the start of the day. It may sound arrogant and big headed, but we're so quick to doubt our selves and think negative things, I'm sure saying something positive won't hurt. every time you have a negative thought, stop your self and think positive.

If you can't think positive, then I'd suggest listening to some up lifting music. Watch an inspiring film or read an inspiring novel.

Be positive, be inspired! and most of all, don't be too hard on yourself

Hope this helps... I have trouble with getting my message across ^_^

[Undreamt]

laughter is also good to lift your spirits

also its good to remember that everyone goes through these stages and things will get better

[Deedee]

Thanks Rawr and Undreamt, I always do what rawr says but i end up being devastated more. the moment i step out of the house and walk to hang out with my friends there are people who will shout "Die gay." or some gay people saying "Go back in the closet you belong there."

it hurts. no matter how hard i try to be me the more i get down. Im already out in the closet and it feels good. i dont wanna go back there anymore. but then the people around me giving me signs that i should go back. that why that i just didnt stay in the closet.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

First I would have to know why/how you are losing what you got then work on keeping from losing more through that route.

Then address the whole oneness of the thing that steals your confidence.

When we lose confidence there is usually a reason - something takes place. Resolution of that conflict usually rewards one with giving back some of that confidence, and the strength in the knowledge that you can deal with similar situations boosts what confidence you have.

Since you gave me two words 'ugly' and 'unwanted' to work with - I think you should explore why it is you think you are ugly and unwanted.

If that avatar is you (really you) I fail to see the ugly.

As for unwanted, we all feel that occasionally, especially if we are rejected - however rejection is part of life. Just because one person doesn't want you doesn't mean you are unwanted, it only means (usually) that that person is clueless to the wonder that is you.

[Deedee]

Thanks Rawr, Undreamt, & Bowyn Aerrow,

I do what Rawr says every morning. I always wake up positively but the moment I step out of our door, other gay people i know will say to me that "Hey dd, you should have stay in the closet, it suits you there." and i end up like feeling i wanna cry but i promise myself never to cry again. i just ignore them but deep inside the confidence i have is crumbling down. I'm already out of the closet my family and close friends knows I'm gay, I'm proud of it but with these people around me keeps saying. hey being gay doesn't suit you. you're ugly.

haays anyway guys i think i should just let it go. thanks for the advices

[stpdo2]

Deedee,

1. You're by no means ugly, you're a good looking guy so don't worry about it!
2. You're not unwanted. I appreciate your friendship and would like to offer you a consoling hug across the interwebs!
3. Happiness is a choice, you have to choose to be happy. Don't let others make that choice for you!
4. The one true freedom we all have is to choose how we respond/react/feel about anything that happens to or is said to us. No one chooses your response but you so choose wisely. This freedom is a huge gift cherish it every day and relax knowing no one can ever take it away from you.

[Deedee]

I choose to be happy. fuck you to all my haters out there

Thanks stpdo.

[SolemnBoy]

Everyone feels like that every now and then. it's not very uncommon. What I do is, I try to think about "beauty". There are lots of different people with lots of different views on what a person should look like in order to be beautiful.

Also, you look very cute in your profile picture thingy, so no worries! Try to remain positive

[Deedee]

i like your signature Solemn

"What isn't remembered never happened. Memory is merely a record. You just need to re-write that record."

now im really feeling positive (: