Dating

[achud]

I would love your advice Gayspeak.

I recently met a really attractive guy at a bar. We had a good time and we gave each other our phone numbers. Long story short we met again at a night club. We danced to together and were very physical. Not so much kissing, but a lot of hugging. Honestly it felt good but it started to get kind of boring. He doesn't seem to talk very much and had it not been for me we wouldn't have talked at all. I ended up getting bored and started looking around more. I felt bad because I was trying really hard but it was exhausting me. At the same time, I really enjoyed looking at him. I ended up claiming really tired and leaving. He had other friends their so I didn't feel too bad. Anyway, When do you decide to just be done with a person? I liked the way he looks and I would say we had a good physical connection (until it was over done) but we seemed to be missing the desire to just talk. What do you think?

[dfiant]

you're window shopping. Stop, have a look, enjoy it for a few moments, then move on until you find someone that suits you.

Obviously you desire someone with a little substance so don't feel guilty. The worst thing you could do is let your guilt persue something with this guy and both end up being hurt because you are incompatible.

[pellaz]

weird he said nothing to you, he didnt try to initiate a conversion.
dont think he was interested.

[Rainbowmum]

With all the physicality it comes off as though he was only looking to hook up.
Usually if someone is interested in you they will talk a mile and try to get to know you.

I think you were pretty much done with him .

[Counselor]

Is a club really a good place for conversation?

[jimbopdxus]

Have you considered that he may be more terrified than you? He could be afraid that if you got to close then it would be you that would run. Been there. Just let the friendship develop on it's own. If it was meant to happen, it will. But in the meantime, be a really good friend. Hang with him. Let him come to know you better. When he is in his comfort zone, then he will let you know.

Have you tried something simple, like holding hands or a friendly hug? He may be terrified or have other issues and just wants a friend.
And if he is not a talker, then maybe a friendship card or "token of appreciation" gift.
"I saw this and thought you might like it." Just keep it FRIENDLY! But don't smother him!