hank Wrote:This is exactly my conundrum. I don't want to embarrass him, or myself, I have never pursued a guy mainly out of fear of just such exposure. her works in a truck stop so I am sure he is under the same pressure.
YOU are making this much harder than it needs to be.
Why? because you are thinking in terms of making a relationship/love connection. Stop thinking that way. Think in terms of 'I would like this guy to be a
friend'
No need to talk sex or relationship or find out if he is gay/bi/straight. Just a friendly 'how-do' - jawbone about the weather or long horn steer or how no one Messes with Texas or whatever stuff Texans talk about.
Well maybe not the weather, its my understanding that tall guys get sick and tired of being asked 'hows the weather up there'. I guess basketball is also out of the line up for topics.
Surely there is some topic, some innocent topic you two can talk about to strike up a
friendship FIRST. He works on trucks? Ask him some mechanic question or something.
Your going to want to be
friends with whoever you end up with. So start off aiming for that.
No you won't go from 'how-do' to beers that night. Well maybe not. So spend a few days or weeks just being friendly and work up to beers at the local bar.
Aim to be a friend to him. That is socially acceptable even at your job, well unless you are a Tax collector, then the law is everyone has to hate you.