Anymore after I cum, my sexual desire stops completely

[Steve1860]

When I was young (teens to 20s), my sexual interest would continue after I came. I could go all night with guys. Now that I am old (52), the second I cum, my interest in sex stops completely. I assume that some of it has to do with age and some of it has to do with some of the meds I have to take. I am even on testosterone therapy for a hypo-testosterone condition. My initial reason for starting that therapy was because I was always tired and just didn't have the motivation to do anything. I didn't start the therapy for sexual reasons.

I haven't touched another man since May or 2002. So any sexual release is JO with porn and even that is not all that often.

My fantasy is always the same...to suck off young guys (18-25 usually). Sometimes they might be older, but it just depends on how they look. I am not interesting in getting myself off.

The second that I cum, my sexual interest/desire completely dies almost to the point of disgust.

I have always had a theory that, "the more you get, the more you want" and vise-versa. I have never had a high sex drive like my friends did when I was younger. I was always shy and didn't know how to "play the games", so I never dated many guys.

Now that I live in a rural area where there aren't allot of gay guys, I don't have the chance of meeting any. This is also complicated by my ever growing agoraphobia that is based on my panic/anxiety problem.

My thoughts now are of just having NSA anonymous sex, basically just oral giving. I have thought of looking for anonymous sex in book stores or "T-rooms" or ??? I have even thought of building my own private glory hole. The thing is that I am not just interested in the dick...I am interested in pleasuring the guy that I am sucking off...for that, I want to see the guy and I am only interested in the young ones...or at least the ones that I am attracted to.

I guess there are two questions here. The immediate disinterest in sex after I cum and the desire to just suck off young guys.

Is this common or am I stuck in some sort of hell where I can't satisfy my desires/needs that will just progressively get worse and worse?

Steven

[Corona]

Bodies are different

[72jay]

I have seen plenty of posts on other sites over the years where guys say once they cum their interest in sex is gone completely. So I don't think its all that uncommon?....

[bluefox4000]

It's ALWAYS been that way for me. It's like a switch......when i'm finished, I really am finished.

Mick

[jimbopdxus]

I have seen and heard other discussions on this. I sort of figured that as we get older the drive tapers off. But in watching other discussions in chat rooms that idea is thin. But I have heard there is such a thing as porn brain where your brain is conditioned to respond to porn and therefore the real thing becomes secondary or sedantary, whatever.
As for being attracted to younger. They are pretty to look at but can be rather immature to play with. I find staying with guys closer to my age can keep the fire lit a lot longer as the stress of running a sex marathon is eliminated and a small respite to recharge batteries is a welcome diversion.
Also, I think you are stressing to much on keeping up with yesteryear and not on the current. Stress will kill the drive pretty fast. Relax and enjoy the moment.

[Chase]

The refractory period:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refractory_period_(sex)

[Counselor]

When I was young (teens to 20s), my sexual interest would continue after I came. I could go all night with guys.

Pretty please TEACH ME THE WAY

[SolemnBoy]

I thought it was like that for everyone! :o

[Steve1860]

Pretty please TEACH ME THE WAY

I'd love to!!!

[Steve1860]

I have seen and heard other discussions on this. I sort of figured that as we get older the drive tapers off. But in watching other discussions in chat rooms that idea is thin. But I have heard there is such a thing as porn brain where your brain is conditioned to respond to porn and therefore the real thing becomes secondary or sedantary, whatever.
As for being attracted to younger. They are pretty to look at but can be rather immature to play with. I find staying with guys closer to my age can keep the fire lit a lot longer as the stress of running a sex marathon is eliminated and a small respite to recharge batteries is a welcome diversion.
Also, I think you are stressing to much on keeping up with yesteryear and not on the current. Stress will kill the drive pretty fast. Relax and enjoy the moment.

I understand what you are saying. I have always related better with older people, even into their 90s, but when it comes to attraction, I am just not attracted to older guys. I don't know how to change what you are attracted to. It is like I can appreciate women, but I am not attracted to them. I couldn't get it up for a woman if my life depended on it. It is the same for older men. I have to agree that I have very little in common with most younger guys, so to hold a decent conversation would be hard at best, but I just don't know how to change my attraction. It seems to me that either you are attracted to someone or you are not. I am not saying that I am attracted to anyone under 35, but there is certainly a particular look that really gets me going. I also had some bad experiences with older men when I was young and I think that I have have some stigma left from those experiences. Now I am that old person looking at the young ones. The difference is that I wouldn't force myself on someone.

Anyway, I am completely mixed up about this. I have always been the romantic type and even though I fantasized about things, I didn't do them. Now I am having major conflicts with myself about having "hookups" with some of these younger guys that like older men. Part of me wants to "go for it" and the other part of me is terrified. My friend said "just do it" and even if you freak out, you will probably never see them again. Well, I remember on of the rare times, when I met someone at a club and then later when to their hotel room. I was literally shaking all over and my teeth were chattering uncontrollably. I went there for sex and then I look like an idiot and had to be calmed down before we could do anything. that was embarrassing. that was bad for a 19yo, now for a 52yo, that would really be bad since it would be thought that I had the experience.