Hello, My name is Andy. I am 30. I have been very horny and confused for the past few years. I recently have realized I love gay porn, and gay chats, and really love gay phone sex. For the most part I have always liked girls, but for the past few years I keep getting serious gay urges and fantasize so much about cock and gay men. Just the word turns me on. Is this normal? I am straight? confused? Gay and in denial? What do I do?
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Best advice is to experiment a little.
Put your guard down and forget about the importance of labels and just see what feels right to you.
Go out with men and women. Be honest about playing the field and not searching for a partner.
Confusion is normal but over time you'll want to settle down.
At least that's what happened to me.
Good luck.
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Porn generally dosnt define anything, certainly not if your gay, bi or straight. Rather being gay is the ability to maintain a same sex relationship better than anything else.
a gay man can be quite comfortable with hag girl friends and this can be nice fulfilling functional friendship. The same gay man may be un comfortable with straight male friends or husbands of other gay men.
you find gay men who are into sports, cars and straight men who are feminine. Gay is a sexual preference and dosnt dictate a life style but ignore it and you will feel quite trapped in a straight relationship with a wife and children. as a gay man you can have a career, a husband and children so either way dont be in denial.
almost certain if you try to put someone else's label on your self it will always lead to fail.
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What is "normal" is a broad range of sexual preferences, urges, and behaviors. None of us fit into a neat, narrowly defined picture of "normal". It is normal to question your sexuality at different times in your life. It is normal for your preferences to change over time. It is normal to be curious.
What do you do? That depends on how courageous you want to be with your life. If you're in Queens there are gay bars and clubs available. Just going to one doesn't mean you have to have sex with anyone who says hi. Experiment a little (or a lot). See if you are attracted to real guys as much as the porn studs.
Being bisexual doesn't necessarily mean being confused. I was older than you before I branched out and explored my attractions to men. Now I'm comfortable being attracted to both men and women. Good luck sorting it out. It can be a great voyage of self-discovery.
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I'd say, if you don't see yourself being happy and fulfilled in a romantic and emotional relationship with another man, then you aren't gay. Some people (mostly straight) will say that having sex with another man makes you gay, but that's a shallow view on it. I think most people can be turned on by an attractive person of the same or opposite sex, but wanting to get off does not a sexuality make.
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Hello,
Thanks for advice. So your gay and in relationship? I am confused enough. I dont understand how for the past few years someone can all of a sudden be seriously attracted to having gay sex. Can it be the porn? When a gay man speaks to me I get very nervous and horny, I was not like this younger. Years ago I never would experiment all these things. I even have phone sex with men and I feel so wild and horny. What age did you realize you were gay? I used to like women always.
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Hello,
Thanks for advice. So your gay and in relationship? I am confused enough. I dont understand how for the past few years someone can all of a sudden be seriously attracted to having gay sex. Can it be the porn? When a gay man speaks to me I get very nervous and horny, I was not like this younger. Years ago I never would experiment all these things. I even have phone sex with men and I feel so wild and horny. What age did you realize you were gay? I used to like women always.
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Sooo Horny for it.. I am lost.
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If I ever decide to write my autobiography, can I use your subject heading as my title?
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